Tony Porter: A Call To Men
"Tony is the original visionary and co-founder behind A CALL TO MEN: The National Association of Men and Women Committed to Ending Violence Against Women. He is the author of "Well Meaning Men...Breaking Out of the Man Box - Ending Violence Against Women" and the visionary for the book, NFL Dads Dedicated to Daughters.
Tony's message of accountability is welcome and supported by many grassroots and established organizations. He’s currently working with numerous domestic and sexual violence programs, the National Football League, the National Basketball Association, colleges and universities around the country. He has worked with the United States Military Academy at West Point and the United States Naval Academy at Annapolis.
Tony is an international lecturer for the U.S. State Department having worked in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, United Kingdom and Brazil. In addition, he has been a guest presenter for the United Nations' Commission on the Status of Women and has been a script consultant for Law & Order: Special Victims Unit." - (x)
I will never understand why stripping is seen as degrading.
Like…the job description is literally “I am so hot that you could never get me in real life so you’re going to have to pay me to dance for you.”
someone was like hey do a flower beard thing and i was like okay
Cold morning ⛄️ few more minutes of sleep then I’m off to the gym
Rush Limbaugh, Asshole of the Day for September 16, 2014
Colleges are finally starting to tighten rules on sexual assault and rape, though certainly not as much or as fast as they should. And while many people consider less rape to be a good thing, there are those who come to its defense, especially on college campuses. For example, back in June George Will derided studies about the prevalence of rape on college campuses by calling rape victims liars.
But George Will is not alone in decrying attempts to stop rape on college campuses. Yesterday Rush Limbaugh explained how new rules at Ohio State violate his own beliefs about what is and isn’t rape:
Conservative radio host Rush Limbaugh mocked The Ohio State University’s new policy telling students to get clear, verbal consent before having sex. Limbaugh went on to ask guys “how many of you guys, in your own experience with women, have learned that no means yes if you know how to spot it?”
"Let me tell you something in this modern world — that is simply, that’s not tolerated," Limbaugh continued. "People aren’t going to try to understand that one. I mean it used to be a cliche. It used to be part of the advice young boys were given. See that’s got to change. We have got to change the way we raise men."
“Why do you think permission every step of the way — aren’t these just lawsuits just waiting to happen if one of these steps are not taken,” Limbaugh said.
"Why do you think permission every step of the way?" To ask this question is to just not care about consent. To not care whether the other person wants to have sex with you. So they kissed you, so you think you can ignore them now saying no and go all the way? That’s what Rush is crying over.
As I mentioned when CeeLo was named Asshole of the Day for saying it’s not rape if they’re asleep, focusing on whether there is a no is the wrong discussion. Rather than “did she say no?”, we should teach people that they should only have sex with people who want to have sex with them, just like we do with everything else. Amanda Marcotte pointed out that someone has to have permission to come into your house, with her basic argument being that it’s not OK unless the homeowner says no in a certain clear way. You’re just not allowed to barge in, so you shouldn’t be allowed to force yourself on someone sexually unless they tell you no— they have to invite you. And an invitation to sex, just like an invitation into their house, is revokable. They can change their mind and ask you to leave. If they invite you into the living room, you aren’t allowed to barge into their bedroom unless they lead you there or tell you that you can. Why is it so hard for people to understand that the same rules should apply to sex?
Probably because they don’t want to. They don’t think it’s wrong to have sex with people who don’t want to have sex with them. They don’t think it’s wrong to take more from someone than that person is willing to give.
Look, the rules around rape won’t trip up anyone who is focused on only having sex with people who want to have sex with them. But Rush Limbaugh doesn’t care— he feels entitled to sex with women, and wants to keep them from expressing that they don’t want to have sex with him, because then he thinks it’s OK. And he thinks all men should be so entitled. And for that, he is the Asshole of the Day.
It is Rush Limbaugh's seventh time as Asshole of the Day. Previous wins were for
- saying Obama caused an obesity epidemic by giving poor people food stamps
- comparing filibuster reform to changing the law to make rape legal
- claiming it was an accident that he called Sandra Fluke a slut, even though he continued calling her that (and worse) on the air for several more days
- trolling for reasons that he should be allowed to use the n-word
- saying “CBS has just declared war on the Heartland of America” for hiring Colbert
- blaming Robin Williams’ death on the “leftist worldview”
Full story: Talking Points Memo.
There’s an abundance of bad things happening right now, and it’s hard not to be sucked into that black hole of sadness, so let’s have a puppy party shall we.
Because, let’s face it, dogs never grow up.
ADDED BONUS, PUPS IN MOTION!!!